Not the actual junkyard I went to, but you get the picture
Went to the one automotive junkyard on the island today. Wanted to see if I could get the dome-light socket for my truck. I have one, but there’s a modification I want to do and I need a second one to do it. Given how common my truck is and how many parts went into various models, it was likely I was going to find at least one.
Also not the truck I pulled bits & bobs from — this is actually a rare Chevy Baja
The 2nd truck I poked my nose into was the winner. I got the light socket and then I started noticing other bits-&-bobs I wanted. The latch-mechanism to the glove box because the door on mine closes but doesn’t latch. And then it was the glove box light that my basic-model truck didn’t come with — and in truth the glove box is so shallow, like a lot of people, it really doesn’t need one. And then I saw that there was a support bracket for the stereo, which whoever monkeyed with my truck before apparently saw as unnecessary and removed it — gone — bye bye! I also saw this under-hood light thing and some Sony dash speakers, but I need to conserve money right now and not nickle-and-dime myself on splurges.
So I got all these bits and bobs and their accompanying screws and my few tools and headed for the door — to find out that they were closing. I asked what I owed them and planned to pay quickly, but they said (essentially) ‘For that, don’t bother — come back when you need a real thing.’ COOL — THANKS!
Got in my truck, put my parts down, got my keys in the ignition, and then went to put my (prescription) sunglasses on ….. no sunglasses. Not on the collar of my shirt, not on the seat, the dashboard — NO WHERE. OOPS — I set them down in the cab of the truck I pulled the parts from! I hopped out of my truck to see that the last employee was leaving — the front desk lady who was covered in the requite junkyard-front-desk-lady-tattoos. I quickly explained the situation, she even more quickly handed me the key to get back in the yard. I ran in hoping that I was not wrong and actually HAD left my (prescription) sunglasses in the cab of the junked truck and didn’t just make a jerk of myself (because I had already been having one of those forgetful days).
The 1980s were too cool for you … and me … and everyone
SUCCESS! Run back out, lock the gate, hand the keys back, hop in my truck, sunglasses on like Detectives Crockett and Tubbs from Miami Vice, and Away I GO!
IT WAS A GOOD DAY AT THE JUNKYARD!!!
… now I just wonder if I should have grabbed those speakers and that engine light thing?
And if you ask why I put that in here, it’s to boost the visability of my sites on the web. But seriously, if you don’t know about my book — now you do!
IF ONLY mine looked this good!Also NOT MINE … but mine looks kind of more like this
Sometime around 2003-2005 I took my beloved two-tone brown – three if you count the rust – 1977 Toyota Celica off the road. It needed too many repairs – enough that the cost of parts to get it happy again was more than the value of the car. I also wasn’t driving much, and I was broke which made fuel and insurance too much of an expense – comparatively I preferred to pay rent and eat food. It was at this time that I stopped listening to broadcast music – because the only time I listened to a stereo was when I was driving.
For the past two years that I’ve owned my truck it hasn’t had a working stereo in it. Frankly, I haven’t missed not having music. In fact, I’ve even preferred not having tunes – having not driven much in as many years I didn’t need the distraction, and I wanted to get comfortable with a vehicle that is noticeably bigger than my Celica.
When I got my truck I took inventory of the work it needed along with modifications I wanted to make. That list – that meticulously detailed Excel list – easily grew past 100 line items. With no shortage of advice and hands-on help from a number of friends and professionals, my truck has come a long way. There’s still plenty of work to do, and lately I’ve reached a point where it’s about time to install the stereo.
Yes, you read that right – it is a 2-channel AM/FM stereo! It’s not 4-channel, it’s not surround-sound, but let’s face it – it’s in the cab of a truck, I don’t need it. This has to be among the last cassette deck stereos that was made and sold – and what’s amazing to me is that it was made with a removable face-plate like the CD players of the time. This removable face-plate feature was done to be a theft deterrent with CD players. Again, let’s face it – it’s a cassette player, that in itself ought to be an anti-theft device!
As far as folks in the 1990s are concerned, this is my old smartphone
I already have one of my previous smartphones setup to serve as an MP3 player in my truck. If you think about it, when this stereo was designed and sold, No One had smartphones – that was Star Trek tech!
So, you might be asking yourself about now, “Don, why do you have this stereo, and why are you putting it in your truck?” The answer to that …. because it works and it was FREE.
So now that I have wheels again and a stereo … what radio stations do I listen to?!?
Who cares — buy my book! Better yet, buy 20 copies and give them to your friends. When they tell you how much they enjoyed it then go buy yourself a copy. It’s on Amazon — paperback, e-book, get both — give it another glowing review. I am not above Shameless Self Promotion. Or humor.
Last night the wheels fell off of St. Patrick’s Day 2019 — Nae Regrets, my Celtic-rock band, will not be playing. NR usually has 2 annual gigs, –they are a BLAST to play and the folks hosting us always take good care of us. In and around these gigs — if we can — we try to wedge in a few other performances.
Obi-Wan is disappointed
With St. Pat’s on a Sunday this year my aim for Nae Regrets was to play Friday evening, pull off some gigs Saturday along with busking Emerald City Comic Con, and then do our beloved Sunday gigs then go home and be back at it like normal people come Monday morning. The closer we’ve gotten to St. Pat’s 2019 the more things have fallen apart. Nae Regrets has been on on/off hiatus for a long time, but we have ALWAYS pulled it together and played St. Patrick’s Day. Not playing this year could mean the longest stretch that we haven’t played. I am disappointed to say the least.
When something isn’t happening, don’t force it — it’s time to take a step back.
I’m Thane — did someone say my name?!?
Rolling with the punches, over the next year’s time I want to work with Thane on the music we’ve been talking about. I’ve always loved what NR does — especially when playing live — however I have wanted to take the music to where I have always imagined it. There are two other musicians I have wanted to bring on as core players and an amazing collection of other gifted artists I would like to have contribute. For some time now Nae Regrets has had 2 albums planned out on paper with more material to follow — but time and logistics have kept things from happening. 2019 will be the year to re-group!
Bummer about St. Pat’s 2019 — in addition to Nae Regrets’ albums, I wanted to bring copies of my book! “Make Your Own Darn Good Cookies“ is available now on Amazon in paperback and e-book forms.WIBC
Things I Will Not Have To Put Up With Not Playing St. Patrick’s Day 2019
The 3-leaf Shamrock is Irish whereas 4-leaf clovers are Los Vegas
Plastic Paddys
Drunks
Green beer (#cheap, #domestic)
Bad bars
Unappreciative audience members
Over-appreciative audience members
Audience members who won’t GTFO my stage
Four leaf clovers
Drunks
Plastic Paddys
People who think it’s okay to be “Irish for a day” and that means getting drunk and hitting someone
People who think it’s okay to impugn Irish heritage because it’s white people
People who don’t know the first thing about St. Patrick
People who fail to understand that I am playing Scottish pipes and wearing a Scottish kilt and that the heritages of Scotland and Ireland are not interchangeable … but I’m out there playing because it’s a gig and I need the money
What was it I said yesterday about my truck repairs???
That I needed to… snow
Reinstall the front bumper stuff and grill along with a jerry-rig fix on the grill.
Reinstall a few interior bits.
Replace the sandbags in the bed and put my tailgate back on.
Paint the rear bumper on Saturday, rebuild it and install it Sunday.
What’s happened since???
I worked for 3 hours in the snow, with and sometimes without warm gloves. I got the bumper, bits, and grill on but didn’t have time to get to the jerry-rig. Last night I returned the sandbags to the truck bed, today I put the tailgate back on.
My bumper did not have it nearly this nice
My approach to today was to paint the bumper and then install the interior pieces. The bumper painting went well all things considering. It snowed over night and it was still cold today, including in the garage. I painted the bumper using a product specially made for painting bumpers — which was a trick — because the directions indicate it is to be used between 60 & 90F and the garage was … well, much colder. I pulled off the painting by making a small tent over the bumper using a drop cloth and two sawhorses and then heating the area using a cubicle heater. snow
After that things got interesting …
The wrap up on my truck repairs produced a comedy of errors. I went to my truck — now parked outside — to install the face-plate that goes over the gauges. To get the space needed to put this in you have to put the vehicle in gear — to put it in gear you have to insert your key into the ignition and turn it part of the way. Since the truck started rough last night I thought I would run it a bit now to charge the battery. It cranked some and then konked out — dead battery, no surprise. Back to the face-plate… snow
I needed to reattach the headlight switch to the face-plate, which is held in by 4 little screws. While putting the first screw in the plastic receptacle broke … so, no face-plate installation today. I’ll glue the broken plastic bit tonight and install it tomorrow. On to the battery … snow
I had less than this … no really
When I went to pull the battery I put the few tools I had on the passenger seat for easier access to the battery. I popped the hood, got out the drivers side, and went to open the passenger door. I found it is frozen shut. Back to the drivers side to get the tools and pull the battery. Long story short, I need to loosen 3 bolts and the tools I had would only work for one of these. Inside the garage for another tool. Battery out, now for my battery charger. snow
Kinda like this but not really
I went to my storage space to get my battery charger. It revealed itself quickly, so back to the house to get the charger going on the battery. When I got back to the house I found I locked my keys inside of my storage area. There is a spare key, but right now it is half way across the state and won’t be back for about 24hrs … hopefully. So, my storage key is secure. My truck keys are secure. My house key is secure. All my keys are secure for the next day.
Fantastic.
Fortunately, I can look at this and laugh along with saying “Sometimes this happens.” Good thing I can laugh about it or I might still be outside kicking snow drifts.
A slight snow drift
PS — something else I said yesterday…
Did you have a frustrating day? I have a remedy for that — make cookies! Yes, make cookies and eat some. It will feel good. What will feel even better is to share your cookies. My book guides you through easy pan cookies, biscotti which is a joy to make, and other assorted cookies (along with some beverages and main courses you’re going to enjoy, but let’s focus on cookies). “Make Your Own Darn Good Cookies“, available now on Amazon in paperback and e-book forms — give a copy to a friend and add one to your collection at home. snow
I’ve had my truck off the road during the past number of weeks to complete a few work items on my repair & improve list. There have been a number of delays due to schedule and a major appliance going out at home, and yet my dad & I have chipped away at the work when and where we can. Last night my truck reached a point where it’s ready to go back on the road for a while. This accomplishments with this round of work feels good — it looks like I’m starting to get on top of my to-do list.
Today I plan to get the front bumper back on my truck — to get my truck in our garage I had to start with taking off both bumpers. Lately our temperatures have been as low as the upper teens and as high as the mid-30s — and we (finally) had our first round of snow. Right now we’re getting our second round of snow. For the next few days it looks like we’re supposed to get more of the teen temps to lower-30s and snow. Snow began to fall again this morning, and so far it’s sticking however it is our warmer wet-snow … and now I’m going outside to work on my truck.
Not actually my truck … same brand and product line however
At this juncture I will skip how our western Washington snow IS in fact different than many other parts of the country, how we DO know how to drive in the snow VRS the southern transplants to Washington State that have no freakin’ clue (including how to drive in snow, rain, sun, etc), and how our wet-cement snow turns to ice along with being on hills that have more or less the same slope as parts of San Francisco.
SO — the remaining work to get my truck back on the sidewalks …. er, I mean, back on the road…
Reinstall the front bumper and other MANLY metal bits along with the grill. There is also a jerry-rig repair I want to finally complete on the grill.
Reinstall a few interior bits now that that the defrost and dash-board lights are operating again.
Replace the sandbags in the bed and put my tailgate back on — minor things, but necessary nonetheless.
Paint the rear bumper on Saturday, get the paint adequately dry, rebuild the bumper (license plate lights and etc-bits), and bolt the bumper back on Sunday.
Yeah, I think that’s it. The first step though is to get my winter clothing located following my move this past summer. I’m and old-school Pacific Northwest boy — up to a point I tend to shake off the rain and snow … but over and around this weekend we’re supposed to get hit with enough snow and cold AND since I’ll be laying on the ground to get bumpers back on … yeah, something a little more serious in the way of clothing is called for.
Oh … PS!
When I grow up I wanna be a snowmobile!
This time last year my truck was off the road, in a garage, with my dad and I doing work on it. The winter before that I didn’t drive it because I didn’t need to. This is the first time in snow that I might actually get to drive my truck and see how it handles, how I do with it. I was starting to wonder if it was going to notoriously be ‘off the road‘ every winter and I was never going to drive it in the snow. I’ve been all ready for this year — sandbags in the back along with snow tires!
P-PS!
When it comes to inclement weather are you an in-door person? Do you prefer to curl up at home on the couch in a blanket, sipping a favourite hot beverage with a book? If so, grab your preferred online device and order a book — and not just any book but my book — “Make Your Own Darn Good Cookies“, available now on Amazon in paperback and e-book. Over 50 proven recipes including cookies, biscotti, coffee, coffee cake and apple sauce, along with a number of main-course comfort foods you and your friends are sure to enjoy!
Did that sound like an advertisement? If so, good — because I need to sell these things!
Every year I look forward to the Gung Haggis Fat Choy event in Seattle. I’ve been the ‘Official Piper’ for our state’s version of this Chinese-Scottish cross-cultural dinner-show since it started in this former logging town — it’s a BLAST!
This time a year ago as I was once again preparing for the fun and frivolity of the night, I received an interesting request…. My friend, Bill MacFadden — who’s also the Seattle GHFC host — invited me to present my upcoming recipe book “Make Your Own Darn Good Cookies“. There was just one problem ….
I hadn’t finished it yet!
My book published on Amazon this past fall — 26Oct2018 to be exact! Last year Bill offered for me to include a copy of my book with a plate of my cookies in the pot-luck dessert auction — I couldn’t do it last year so I’m doing it this year 🙂
When I thought about it though, I asked myself “How does my book tie in to this Scottish-Chinese event?!?” The answer to that is simple! In my book I feature how to make traditional Scottish Shortbread along with the history of its importance with Hogmanay (part of Scottish New Years). Also, three of my own bagpipe compositions are featured at the end of the book …
Beag air Bheag (“Little by Little” in Scots Gaelic)
Here’s a video of me playing for a Lion at the 2011 event — while the sound-quality leaves a few things to be desired, this performance is one of my biggest memories of playing the Seattle Gung Haggis Fat Choy!
I’ve been a busy bloke lately …
… I’ve restarted my day-job search
… I’ve been working on my truck to get ready for my commute
… I’ve been promoting my book, AND
… I’ve been getting a few book presentations scheduled
Yeah, you read that bit about how I’m working on getting a day-job and getting my truck ready for my commute? Here’s the thing … I need to kill the rust on the cab floor of my truck and paint it. I’ve had some modern Naval Jelly stuff and paint along with other supplies, I just haven’t had time. My preference has been to do this outside during the summer, yet the past few summers have been too busy. This is +/- a 1-week project …. and now I’m trying to do it done before a job starts AND in winter?!?
Here’s The Deal …
The work ahead is more or less like this — bearing in mind that I have to make some accommodations to do the work at this time of year …
Remove the bumpers from my truck to get it to narrowly fit in the garage at my new place — DONE
Remove the bench seat and flooring — Partly DONE
Carefully pull my truck into the garage where there is little space (Note that previously I thought I was going to have to remove the doors, too — but I’ve figured out how to accomplish the work without pulling these off.)
Not a post like this.
Heat the cab in an otherwise cold garage so the rust-killer stuff I have will work right and then allow it to sit for about 24 hours
Paint the floor and heat the cab in the previously mentioned cold garage so the paint will dry right and allow that to sit for about 3 days
Reinstall everything in the cab, put the bumpers back on, and return to driving on the sidewalks (<– yes, that last one is a joke — if you can’t deal with it then stop reading now)
There are other tasks I aim to complete while the truck is off the road and the paint is curing, however that is aside the focus of this post …
Progress so far …
For the past few weeks I’ve been working on getting this project going — but things keep coming up. You make plans and then there’s what happens — plans (often) don’t always work out as projected, the important part is that you do your best. I have the bumpers off, the seat-belts and the bench-seat unbolted. Yesterday I thought I was going to get the truck in, however a problem presented with the garage door — so a decision was made to put the work off until next week after the door is fixed.
There is a bright-spot in all of this …
I have plenty to do in the meantime — including working on my job search. As for my truck, one of the smaller tasks is that I’ve wanted to kill the rust on the rear bumper and paint it. I had planned to do this concurrently while working on the floor — now I get to try out my Naval Jelly product first and get familiar with it before working on the more-critical floor. This also gives me time to work on other things that have needed attention.
OH… and one more thing… There is an online bagpipe school called Dojo University — I’ve known about them for years and heard nothing but good things and their prices are quite affordable. If I could I would like to give their school a go, however I haven’t had an adequate net connection since finding out about them. In the mean time I’ve read articles that they put out and uses some of their free services. Lately I’ve been taking part in the “Dojo U 100 Day Bagpipe Challenge“. The primary part of the challenge is for pipers, in their individual practice, to assemble their pipes and practice one tune — any tune — a day for 100 consecutive days …. and if you miss a day, you have to start over. I see the object of this as not so much to work on one’s playing ability as it is to develop discipline. Today will be Day 012 — it’s going well — and if I can … between now and when I can get started on my truck next week … I aim to do two practices a day.
Adventures In Truckdom
Doors … Done? Anything … Done?
I set out to do a number of little tasks on my truck today — all of which I thought I was going to be able to knock out and then be done working on my truck for the coming week. Best laid plans …
After starting in on my truck I found I needed to spend some time addressing the storage of one of my cars along with some spare body parts I have for my truck. All of this needed immediate attention and it sucked up a bunch of time! Frustrating, but stuff like that happens.
My plans today were to finish the work on both of my truck doors — seal the gutter rubber, transfer a seal from the bottom of my old passenger door to the new one, pull the windshield washer bottle and change the pump, restocked cab, and install a seat cover.
What did I get done? … Restocked the cab a bit, half finished the doors, and pulled the windshield washer bottle. I also had to re-work the passenger door because I screwed up a bit when I built it. Nothings broken, I just put some stuff on backwards — which I kind of need to take it apart again tomorrow and check the other bits.
Oh, I also got some sandbags into my bed today for winter traction.
What else did I accomplish? I’m tired and sore. Going on 3 years ago I was in a car accident and got whiplash; I think I’m mostly healed now and back to normal, but sometimes I wonder that I’m still recovering some of my strength and stamina. Some of it too could be that I’ve also gotten older in the mean time. Poo. But, I’m not one to give up, not one to stop pushing or trying — NOPE!
Here’s the thing… I have plans to leave for the weekend — plans that are important to me — and I need my truck a bit more ready than it has been. I think I can get everything else done tomorrow.
I’m not sure if I forgot something above. I’m not sure if this is written at all well. I’m sore and tired … I mentioned that, right?
One of the needed repairs to my truck is the cab floor — it’s rusty. Something that came the neglect of the previous owner/s was the idea that gutter-rubber wasn’t really …. necessary. The drivers-side one was missing when I got the truck, and the screwy passenger-side door didn’t close all the way. Ultimately water came in, soaked the flooring, the flooring worked like a sponge soaking up water, and this water was held to the floor. Now, let’s do some math… paint
Wet Flooring + Time = RUST …. not awesome :-\
Once I got this truck and started going over it, I found the wet and stinky floor and the rust. I got the flooring to be not wet and the cab of the truck to be not stinky — then I started working over the floor. I exposed all the rust and even found a few pin-holes in the process. A car-guy friend patched the holes and told me what to do to kill the rust, how to paint and further seal the cab floor. This would have been nice to work over during a summer but things haven’t worked out that way. Why summer? I could work outside, it’s warm and dry, and venting fumes isn’t a problem. Right now I’m figuring out if I can work over the floor in the off season. There are some tricks to it though…..
Space — The Final Frontier…
There is a garage I can use. It isn’t heated but I think I can heat what I need to accomplish the job done. I need to remove both bumpers to get my truck in … hopefully. I will also need to remove both doors to be able to do the work.
The Space/Time Continuum
Then comes that “Time” factor again from above. The rust-killer juice I have is 2 bottles of stuff — some stuff like Naval-jelly that removes the rust followed by a bottle that neutralizes the Naval-jelly once it’s done its work. After that, paint. My car-guy friend instructed to put it on with a brush so the paint would be thick — reading the can it sounds like it won’t dry correctly. I’ve figured that I could probably spray it on and do multiple coats, which would help it to dry better and end up being thick. I’ve been trying to check with said-car-guy to see if that should work. The funny thing is that I think this paint is technically Ford’s signature-blue colour and my truck is a Chevy. The other time issue is if I can pull this off before looking to have my truck back on the road when I want to go out of town this coming weekend …. this on top of stuff going on with my book (available on Amazon.com), holiday baking, the holidays themselves, AKA life. Add to the time-issue, I’m also looking to paint my rear bumper while it’s off the truck.
That said — I need to shake a leg on this stuff… Whatever why things go, I have just a little more to do on a door-repair yet today.
Today is my birthday, and it’s a bit of a milestone — call it a half-milestone. Most people are cool with their birthdays while some folks get weird — self-conscious about aging, resentful about past celebrations, attention seeking … whatever. And then other people poo-poo the B-Day folks for wanting to acknowledge their birthday, passing judgment that it’s childish to observe or celebrate. In the end it is what it is to the B-Day boy or girl, and if you can’t say something nice then keep your garbage to yourself … which is about the nicest way I can say that.
Oh … Dear Reader, please note…
If you’re thinking that this is some friendly-happy blog-post about my birthday, it’s NOT. This is more of a hard-core truth and you might prefer to opt-out now.
Aww crap — did I just write a “trigger warning”?!?
This is how much a day-hike in Washington State sucks. Forgive me for asking you to subject yourself to this horrific-ness with a drag like me.
Five, six, whatever years ago I gave up on trying to celebrate with my “friends“. I’d make plans that I thought were interesting activities, doing something I like to do — which was usually going on an autumnday hike, which is BEAUTIFUL here. I’d make invites a few months in advance, and as the date grew closer people had more important things to do and canceled — one time the last 2 people canceled on the day. In many cases these were folks who maybe I’d only get to see once a year … birthday
So it became None.
Fine, I’ll take this elsewhere…
I gave up on trying to celebrate my birthday with any of my “friends“ — the people who mattered to me and I understood it was mutual. I’d make it to their celebrations, but when it came to mine … they were “busy”. After enough years of this I found that it was healthier for me to detach — detach from whatever it was that was the difference between my understanding and theirs, detach from wanting to do something with people I thought I got to share some happiness with in this life, detach from thinking that someone might be interesting enough to stop and do something different with and essentially say “I’m glad you’re here with me.” So I don’t know if I’m not cool enough, or not interesting enough, or because I don’t drink it doesn’t look like it’s going to be a fun enough time for you* to celebrate with me … FINE … if you can’t play with me for even part of one day then I’m not playing with you. Which is about the nicest way I can say that, too.
(*I just thought of a term — “Drunktard”.)
Don’t get me wrong – I’m no longer angry at these “friends”, these humanish-people things, whatever they are — but I am angry.
I am angry that we grow up, we ‘become adults’, we have families, careers, and these develop into excuses. And excuses for excuses — and licenses for excuses — but hear me when I say…
It is all BULLSHIT.
(Oops, I didn’t say that “nice“.)
I am angry that the best folks can do is leave a little Happy Birthday message on a social media* site. I can barely give a single slice of (a turd) when I get a text saying “Hey — Happy Birthday!” but a person can’t pick up their same phone and call to say the same??? I am angry that the more technology connects us the more disconnected we become — but hey, the other person pushed a button, they did something to acknowledge their friend/loved-one, so they can move on to the next thing on Their All Important To-Do List. I am angry at human conduct in my perception and opinion that appears to be inauthentic.
(*I’m so old I remember when “face time” meant actually spending time together FACE TO FACE without an “e-” in front of anything.)
Palmer was pointing out that to this other singer experiencing life fully with all the good & bad parts is of upmost importance while we are here, while we have the opportunity, and that shutting down or disconnecting in any way is missing it. I think it can similarly be said that being inauthentic is an ultimate obscenity to this beautiful experience we only get one chance at — just one! birthday
Every year now I tend to go silent for my birthday.
If someone does happen to call or (god help me) e-message me I’ll meet them where they’re at — I won’t shove them off, I’ll at least say “Thank you.” to a text, but I’m also not putting anything out for anyone to go do anything with me … I wouldn’t want to ask them to put themselves out — how inconsiderate of me!
More than anything I go silent online.
Am I isolating? Maybe, but I’m also not allowing for the bullshit to come in either.
I don’t allow posts on my social media locations because on most days there are folks who cannot conduct themselves with adequate decorum with their postings. I guess because of their bullshit version of rugged individualism where anything flies — “And if you don’t like what I said, screw you, I gotta right to express myself — UNGH!” This means I don’t receive the George Jetson happy birthday posts either — and GOOD. …And now Facebook has started doing these charitable-birthday-cause things?!? “Instead, for my birthday, I’m asking you to donate to some seemingly good cause that you don’t have to care about, just like me.” I don’t ask for those — if how folks fail to connect with me is any indicator, then any good-cause I might select wouldn’t get anything. (*insert chortle*)
Get your calendar and your pen and write the birthday of each person you care about on it and check it regularly (or set it up in your phone, it doesn’t matter as long as you do it). Contact these people and ask them out to lunch or dinner for their birthday — your treat. Get that same pen and some paper and write that someone an authentic note to add to a birthday card — fuck the card, it’s the note that matters. Get together with that person for whatever it is that they want to do even if you don’t fully think you’d have fun, because it’s not about you. Get real and acknowledge that this is really someone you care about or not — and if you can’t do that GET LOST.
When I think about this I’m lonely;
When I don’t think about it I’m just alone.
For years now I’ve liked the idea that if I had the money I’d take a trip for my birthday — hell, I’d take myself out to dinner but I can hardly afford to do that. I might tell people where I’m going & when I’ll be there — be it dinner or the trip — and if I see them there then good. Sure, the trip asks more expense and I wouldn’t expect people to show up, but when you tell folks enough in advance that you’re going to be at this restaurant or that bar and they don’t show up, can’t show up, have some excuse … then are they real? Are they really in your life? Are you really a part of theirs, or are you just a cog who serves them in some way?
If any of those questions resonate with doubt for you — dear reader — then maybe it’s time to take your little red wagon elsewhere and play with some better kids. Or is this just some bigger problem, that as a society our intimacy is dying? Or maybe as my non-bagpipe-related-posts go I should just shut-up and stick to reviewing zombie films …. like that matters. One of the nice things about playing Highland bagpipes is that while you’re playing you’re all alone — you can’t hear bullshit, you’re just in the music.birthday
“Be kind, be real, or get out of my face.” ~ Pete Townshend, 1992 in a writing about The Who ~ birthday